Proverbs 20:3 "It is to one's HONOR to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel"
Proverbs 20:22 "Do not say 'I'll pay you back for this wrong!' WAIT for the Lord, and HE will avenge you."
Proverbs 20:18 "Plans are established by seeking advice; so IF you wage WAR, OBTAIN GUIDANCE"
Proverbs 20:24a "A person's steps are directed by the Lord."
Tyler paraphrase "Stop being offended all the time, and quarreling so quickly. Avoid useless arguments and be humble. Leave room for vindication from God himself and be quiet while you wait. He is faithful to vindicate.
If GOD asks you to go into battle, to go to war for something, OBTAIN GUIDANCE first. Wise counsel to get battle strategies. Go to the top for your instructions, the commander and chief, the King, Abba Father.
If he says battle, then battle with all you have. With every arsenal in your possession, up to the point of death, even death on the cross.
BUT if God says wait, rest, turn the other cheek, be wronged and be patient for the Lord's vindication, THEN STAY PUT AND DO NOT GO INTO THE BATTLE. For if you go without Abba, you will surely loose and will remove his plan for true vindication, which is reconciliation.
The important thing here, is to seek the Lord first! Long before a response, an attack, or a counter attack. Make sure God tells you to go into the battle! Hear from him and seek his advice.